Work is extremely important, but so is your relationship. You need to be especially caring to all her needs here ’cause it is your domain and she is the outsider. Make sure you include her in conversations and explain what she doesn’t understand or know about. You might not feel the difference but she does. Don’t confuse her by being two different people. Also be careful that you treat her the same in front of your people like you do when you are alone with her. Make sure you don’t fail to introduce her to your family and friends as your girl friend / fiancee / wife. But do it yourself… don’t wait for her to come begging to you. Just do it once in a while to show her you care and that you know it is hard work.
Don’t try to do it all by yourself either. Dont get her off and leave it just as it is ’cause that would just increase the burden. Instead of leaving her to do the cooking, dishes and making the bed take it off her hands at times. Be it helping her with her assignments or helping her make her presentations. Theres nothing better than taking the load off her to make her feel she is appreciated. If you fail this one, the first thing that comes to her mind is that she is not appreciated and is being taken for granted. Even if you fail to realize that she has a new haircut, make sure you react as soon you are told. The least that you can do - give her a few words of encouragement. If she is not one to dress up everyday, then know that she is taking a lot of pain just to make you proud. You are a lucky guy if your girl likes to dress up for you. Make sure you give her space to understand. Say whatever you have to say slow but stern. Talk only once you know she is done yelling. Thus its advisable to be careful not to say anything that might hurt her ’cause those are words she will bring up everytime she wants to earn a brownie point against you. Words spoken at that moment can never be recalled and nor will they be forgotten by your girl, even though it may get rid of your pent up anger and frustrations momentarily. Its very easy to lose your temper during an argument and get down to name calling. Don’t make your fights a slanging match.Keeps your relationship a lot less uncomplicated. Best is to create an atmosphere of openness with her so that it is easier for her to accept things that you would otherwise hide from her. Even if she doesnt let you know at the time… this little lie will act as the first seed of doubt in your relationship which can grow into something huge and ugly with time. Most women are good at reading body language. What matters to her is not how aptly you got rid of her trouble but how patiently you listened to all that she had to say. What she needs is someone to be able to talk to! She needs to know that you care enough to sit through a whole session of her woes. She is smart enough to decide that for herself unless she did ask you to make the decision. She doesn’t need you to tell her what is right and what is wrong. A few gestures that touch a womans heart and makes her a happy person. But I can try telling you a few things that guys do right.
… I am not offering the much awaited answer to any of you. The complete post is really worth the time :). And I think all the points mentioned are correct ). Sometime back I read this post in another blog.
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